Help me; I can’t keep this secret any longer!
Please, help me. I am very sure you and your readers will help find a solution to this problem.
I am not directly involved, but if anything happens the consequences will affect me severely. I must also be very careful so that I won’t put the person who is directly involved – my 17-year-old sister-in-law in trouble. She confided in me because she had no one to turn to and she had been given a serious warning not to divulge the secret or she would die.
I am sure you would understand the gravity of the whole issue if I explain or probably I am over blowing the whole thing.
I am a mother of three children, I had my first two children without any problem. My marriage used to be a peaceful one, but few years into my marriage my husband lost his job. Then, I was pregnant with my second child (please, I don’t want to mention names here for obvious reasons). I am a trained nurse, I have equally obtained my
B.Sc Nursing, and I have a good job. My husband also a graduate had a banking job, but later lost his job.
If he was patient we could survive on my salary until God would provide another job for him, but few months after he lost his job, I started noticing that he became very restless especially after the business he tried to go into with the little money he had failed.
I also noticed that he started keeping some friends that I was not comfortable with. I tried raising this with him, but he became aggressive. In fact, he became almost a total stranger to me.
I spoke with his mother and mine about the change in him (both of us have lost our fathers even before we got married) and I was advised to take things easy with him as he was probably disturbed with the things happening to him.
About seven months after my perceived observation, things started picking up for him again and truly he became his normal self. He changed and he started a business. (I don’t want to mention the business here so that no one can trace this story).
I had delivered my second child, then, a baby girl. My first child was a boy and because we had agreed that we wanted two children, I was not prepared for another child.
On one of our very good days when my husband and I were talking, he raised the issue of his new friends and my initial opposition and hostility, towards them. He also emphasised that he had them to thank for his change of status.
I made him realise that my opposition was not as a result of hostility, but that I was not comfortable with them. We joked about a lot of things and we closed the topic.
It was later that I realised that probably my husband raised the issue of his friends with me to find out if I still had my suspicion and also if I knew more than meets the eye.
Although, I suspected a lot of things, but I was diplomatic with him, because I have learnt that their (his friends) issue was always a very delicate one so I decided not to raise my misgivings or say my mind.
My husband and I went to the same secondary school, we lived close to each other while we were growing up, so to a large extent we had common friends and I knew all his other friends. But these set of people that he met after losing his job I haven’t met them before.