I need some outside opinion on this.
when i was in jamaica i was with a girl. we were not exclusive just f**king. she said she was not seeing anyone else.
we even went as far as to talk about friends with benefits.
we were like that for about a year and a half, just f***g and respecting each other.
then i got a call from her one day that she was 3 month pregnant and i am the father. i was not ready for no baby or any news of that sort so i wasnt excited. i asked how long she knew and she said a while back but she didnt plan to keep it so thats why she just telling me.
ok man up take responsible, after all i know we were f***g, and at the time according to her she was not seing nobody else.
the fact that she waited 3 months to tell me and was considering abortion behind my back raised a few questions, but i trued to understand as she was about 21 and had just finished her associate degree and was looking forward to kinda start life.
remember now me and this girl not exclusive, but i was like f**k it. so i decided to put her on my insurance plan and started to some what get myself ready to be a daddy. i was asking people for advice and thing as it was my first time.
there was this guy at work i was talking to. he was a taxi man. i told him about the abortion that nearly happened and that she only told me that she was pregnant after 3 months. he asked me how i know the baby was mine and that thats not how men normally do in a situation like that.
he said i should wait until the baby born then i step in if the baby look like me.
that conversation kinda shake me up a bit so i decided to question baby mother, kinda sternly and blunt. this was nearly 3 or 4 weeks after finding out.
gues what baby mother said. ok dont worry it is not your baby, forget about it.
i was glad but i was shocked.
remember i was allegedly the only one she was f****g.
i backed out but we kept in touch. when the baby was born, i went and visit her and and see the baby, bearing in mind that there is a 50% chance that the baby is mine.
there was,a baby daddy in place and it was what it is.
i migrated to the US about a month or so after the baby was born, and just like most people who run off in the US. i hit rock bottom.
I was on my face and going through the struggle as an illegal immigrant. Me and baby mother kept in touch and i always ask me to send me pics of the baby and we always talk about the posibility of the baby being mine.
i had always acknowledged the possibility and promised to do a DNA when ever i come back to jamaica.
we kept in touch throughout in regards to baby. that was our little secret. then 2016 i got status in US and i found out i dont have to go to Jamaica to have DNA done so both of collaborated and have mine and the baby’s sample taken.
long story short. baby is mine, but here is the conflict. another man have the child as his and him and baby mother live together as a happy family.
my intention is to have baby name change and i take child to spend time with me in US.
baby mother was shocked and dont know what to do. said i should just forget it and let things stay how they are. also that i should keep it a secret.
i told her that wasnt possible as it is a fact the child is mine, but i can allow her some time to do what ever she have to do to make a smooth transition without much conflict with her man.
for now i am just on standby waiting to make the best decision for everbody.
it not a blame game we were both adults and performed recklesd behaviour so i shere the blame and just want to make the best possible decission.
what do i do?