Good day Met n all bloggers,
Met I really applaud ur effort to raise awareness about sexual abuse especially in Jamaica. It is understandable that virtually all the prespective is coming from a woman’s viewpoint but here is my 2cents as a guy.
It’s not just a perception but truth be told sexual abuse is rampant in Jamaica and is basically systemic.To prove this let’s look at certain scenarios that covers all segment of Jamaican society. In uptown where there are powerful ppl who prey on vulnerable men n women.Its a total different thing to use one’s money n status to entice some victims (who are clearly licky licky n covetous),than using same to abuse the weak.
I was in the union at a major company n I remember defending this yute they wanted to fire cuz he snapped at his supervisor n told him badwords so HR boss said it was a clear cut dismissal 4 failing to follow instructions. So me,di yute,Hr lady n di male rich goodlooking supervisor guy in the meeting.They proved their case n all was left was to issue his termination letter,then as they get up to leave I heard the yute mutter something very faintly.He said there’s more he wanted to say n the management kept refusing to allow him saying the decision was taken n that was the end. I lobbied the hr lady to mek the yute talk n against the supervisor vehement protests she allowed him.
The yute told a tale of how much is him is the only breadwinner for his mom n granma n 5sisters n 1brother.He said he cried in protest when the supervisor told him,he would lose his job if he didn’t comply.So almost at the same time me n the hr lady said comply with what.He said the supervisor came at him n held his neck from behind when he went to the storeroom to retrieve something the same supervisor sent him for.He raped the yute n jus cuz di yute no want lose him work him kept quiet until that day he just exploded at him. That supervisor was transfered, no police report,nothing..di yute was made redundant a month after!!He told me,he didn’t wanna press charges cuz of the shame on his family so there’s nothing I could do!
The other uptown scenario is that it’s quite common for them to even go after their fellow uptown pretty brownings.The parents are so ashamed that they cover up lil miss being abused by Mr.powerbroker. I went to a very prominent uptown school n when I was in 5th form my classmate was pregnant by a rich society 50yo nieghbor in hope pastures.So even uptown girls are victim but they can’t speak out for fear of ruining their parents’upstanding image in society. It’s almost the same stigma whereby domestic abuse uptown is very much underreported cuz they don’t want to lose the trappings of the fine uptown lifestyle.Sameway with sexual abuse n our uptown kids are suffering in silence.
Downtown sexual abuse is the most talked about form n exists along two fundamental basis.Firstly is the economic hardship that gets so unbearable that ppl are boxed into a corner n instinctively their entire being becomes focused on surviving the ghetto’s pitfalls. Now u can’t blame them for following their human nature of survival but what becomes key is HOW they go about it. Many downtown girls will tell u that from a fairly early age,they are taught or somehow realize that they can use their bodies as a survival tactics. Therefore in this setting young girls are highly sexed fed on a steady diet of the hustling mentality and even the very music encourages dem to bruk out n tek a gal man.
In this scenario it’s easy to get their initiation to sex as the hype men dem show interest.Having displayed all the traits of a f**kist it’s near impossible to say no n fight off the thirsty men they attract who will just ignore their pleas to stop. The low self esteem n the infamy of her not so goody 2 shoe image means that most victims suffer in silence cuz who’s gonna believe her?!The next basis is how a benefactor or even the don grooms n helps out young girls.He will pay 4 u to go to school but as soon as she buss breasts, he gets 1st sample n sends for the girl.Thirdly n more importantly our young ghetto girls are living in fear!! Many bad men even the Don himself always set an order that rapists will be killed but what they really mean is anybody other than them rape will be killed.So imagine a girl get rape n has to choose btw her dignity + her need 4 justice and the crystal clear knowledge that her brothers,sisters n parents even her frenz will be harmed if she opens up!??Do ppl even begin to wonder n comprehend now why some victims keep the hurt inside n don’t talk just to save lives at the expense of damage to her life?!!
Dearest frenz would u believe me if I tell u that the 3rd segment that is rural/country society is the worst sexual abuse crisis in Jamaica’s history,present n future!!?
Hear me out n u will see these facts. Due to urban migration n lack of opportunities in rural underdeveloped areas,both skilled,unskilled persons leave the country areas to seek better.Whats left is basically poor ppl to somehow survive n most turn to farming which is nowhere near lucrative on such a small scale,so it’s just to feed themselves.
Most of the adult women work the field or go to the market to sell the crops.Little girls are left unattended and at the mercy of the flesh eating demons.Its almost a way of life in all country areas to find girls as young as 12-15 shacking up with men.The other thing that proves is the worst is the lack of education that results in ignorance flourishing in rural areas. Look no further than the rural areas have always had the highest cases of INCEST. These guys will tell u dem nah fatten fowl 4 mangoose n I’ve spoken to 1 name Bustie in st Thomas n he boastes that he had to be the 1st to pick his daughter’s cherry!!
Ppl consider jamaica basically ochi,mobay n kingston n negril n mandeville n portmore so in these deep rural areas no one hears the abused cries cuz out of sight out of mind.
Met I realize this is long so I will end it here n send part 2 which contain my own experience n possible solutions.
Thanks again n again I say thanks for your help,it will make a difference in the lives of the abused.
Written by…Mr IT Man