The regular Jamaican parent has to be broken down into about four of five different types of parenting. While for the women it is complicated and can be broken down in these groups the Jamaican father is less complicated, they are either there or not there.
-There is the Jamaican parent that doesn’t know how to love, that parent is usually disconnected from their offspring. Some may provide food and shelter in extreme cases these parents leave the children to fend for themselves
-There is the Jamaican parent who learned early to use their body for what they want and ended up getting children that they didnt want. The mothers have different groups of children and leave them in various places
– Fathers will impregnate multiple women and choose to support a few of their offspring.
-Some fathers will deliberately disown the children they know are theirs
-In later years because of the changes Jamaican culture and migration, it brought a different type of parent to the table.-The parent who went abroad and had life harder than they thought and wasnt able to provide for their children back home. -The provider parent, who migrated and sends money steadily back home but the child/children are disconnected from the parent because they end up not knowing them.
How do you feel about your parents and the way they parented?
How do you feel about the way you parented what do you think you could have done differently?
Many of us struggle with the type of parents we have/had …How do you feel about the impact your parents have on your life?
HERE IS AN ARTICLE ABOUT PARENTING STYLES IN THE CARIBBEAN
In many Western countries, the nuclear family, in which both parents are members of the household, is believed to be ideal. In Jamaica and the wider Caribbean, however, the nuclear family is often the exception rather than the rule. A large proportion of families in the region still consist of only one parent, usually the mother, with fathers adopting a marginal role in child-care and nurturance. According to the UNICEF publication “Situation Analysis of Jamaican Children,” over 45% of the households in Jamaica are female-headed. Such family structures are generally accepted as the norm in the Caribbean, and are often viewed as functional responses to the problems faced by people living in the region.
With regard to parenting style, a large percentage of Jamaican parents are believed to be authoritarian. This belief is largely due to the forms of discipline and communication patterns employed by many parents in the country. While there are variations in parenting styles among Jamaican parents, their general child-rearing methods have been described as highly repressive, severe and abusive (Smith & Mosby, 2003) and their disciplinary measures as inconsistent and developmentally inappropriate (Sloley, 1999, cited in Smith & Mosby, 2003). As Smith and Mosby (2003) mentioned, physical punishment is culturally sanctioned and generally viewed as the norm, supported by parents, relatives, teachers, and some religious leaders. Recently, the use of corporal punishment in Jamaican schools was banned but it continues to be used extensively by many parents. [showmyads]
Poor parent-child communication is another characteristic of authoritarian parenting that has been noted among Jamaican parents. Evans and Davies (1997, cited in Smith & Mosby, 2003) noted that Jamaican parents often complained about their children asking too many questions or talking too much. These researchers argued that Jamaican parents are not inclined to engage in extended conversations with their children or to reason with them, views which are supported by Smith and Mosby (2003). In a study funded by the United Nations Children’s Fund (UNICEF), entitled “Unfriendly Parents in Jamaica” (2001) similar issues were identified and discussed. More specifically, researchers noted that there is a “lack of balanced communication between parents and teenagers, an unwillingness to engage in discussions with children, lack of information by parents and a lack of understanding of adolescent behaviour” (“Unfriendly Parents in Jamaica,” 2001, cited in Smith & Mosby, 2003, p. 373). Again, cultural beliefs help to maintain this form of interaction between parents and children. Many Jamaican parents still adhere to the view that children should “speak only when spoken to” and “should be seen and not heard.”